Saturday, November 10, 2007

Sad

What am I talking about? Well another blog I read is getting criticized about not only because she homeschool's but also because she is considering to sending her children to public school. So on one hand she has people saying you shouldn't homeschool because blah, blah, blah. Then on the other hand she has other homeschoolers telling her that she shouldn't send them to public school because blah, blah, blah. I didn't read the comment because she had password protected that blog post. But from her post afterwards I know it wasn't a nice comment. So I don't blame her for password protecting it and shutting off comments. It's just sad that, not even a fellow homeschooler can support her. I won't put a link to her site because I don't think she wants more trouble.

What I do want to say is that we all should support each other weather we are working moms, stay at home moms, moms that send their children to public/private schools and those that homeschool their children. We all have one thing in common and that is we all wants what's best for our children. For some it may be for both parents to work because 1) they need the income or 2) because maybe the mother wants a job outside of the home. Sometimes women want to work 3) Maybe they feel it shows their children that women can be hard workers outside of the home and women can be more than just a "mom". Still others want to be SAHM because they feel a pull to take care of the kids and be at home. This doesn't make them bad women it's just what they feel is best maybe for 1) they want to be there for their children whenever they need them (not that working mom's don't it's just different). 2) When I quit work to be a SAHM it was because my hubby and I would work separate shifts so we wouldn't need a babysitter and I missed being with my husband and being there for the kids. I felt like (not everyone feels the same way this was what I felt) I was missing out on the boy's life. 3) Maybe for some (it was for me too) they felt God was telling them to be home with their family. Not everyone who is a Christian or religious may feel that call but some of us do. This doesn't make either choice a bad choice. It just means different things to different people.

As for those sending their kids to public/private school or homeschooling them, there are many different reasons for both. For sending them to a public/private school it maybe 1) Both parent's have to work and maybe they don't think they can work and homeschool 2) Maybe to them it's the best choice for their family. 3) Maybe they generally don't want to do it or maybe they feel like they can't. For homeschooling them 1) they may feel it's the best choice for their family. 2) Some that are religious might do it for religious reasons and honestly that is their choice. 3) Maybe the school in their district is not a good school system. There are a lot of other reasons in either case but those are just a few that I mentioned. Again what we all have in common is we do what we think is best for our families.

Some people after homeschooling a while decide to send their children to public/private school again for many reasons. A few are 1) Maybe the parent that was homeschooling the children has to go back to work for financial reasons. 2) Maybe something has happened in the family like a death or other traumatic event and they can't fully keep their thoughts on homeschooling their children. 3) Maybe they are burn out and truly need a break to recuperate from it all. Sometimes we can stress ourselves out from it all. And 4) maybe just maybe it's because they feel it's the best for their family to now return them to public/private school.

In any of the cases above we must realize we are all mother's/father's or even grandparents doing the best we can for our families. Not every family is the same. We all have different needs and wants from our families. So what is best for yours isn't necessarily for someone else's family. I don't feel like I am the best parent because I homeschool and because I am a SAHM. I think we are all mother's/father's just trying to do our best with our children. So let's try to support each other even if you don't agree with each other's choices. Yes I know there are some bad parent's both public/private school parents and homeschool parents but I am not talking about them. I am talking about all of us parent's that try our best to raise our kids the best we know how. So instead of judging each other why don't we ban together and hold each other up and support one another. There is enough bad things in the world than to worry about how one educates their children don't you think?

4 comments:

Julie said...

Amen!

(and thank you)

dakotablueeyes said...

They are her kids, she knows what's best for them and she should do it. If she wants to send them send them, if she wants to keep em home, keep em home. Its nobody's business but hers.

Kevin and Sarah said...

I totally agree. Every family's journey is an individual one. Sometimes we criticize someone else's choices in an effort to feel better about our own simply because we are insecure. Let's move on. Good post.

Jody said...

Thank you all for your comments. It just really irks me that people are so easy to judge other's for silly things like that.