Friday, March 7, 2008

A Bit About Me Part 3

Sorry Everyone. Yesterday I had some trouble with my laptop so that's why I didn't post. I hope it won't act up now. On to part 3 of my story. ..


I remember going to school here in Michigan for the first time. It felt really weird because one it was a civilian school and two because there really wasn't a lot of different cultures there. There were a lot of white people. I know I am white but it wasn't what I was used to. I was used to having a variety of friends. I think I was really shell shocked with having my parents going through a divorce and then having to adjust to a way of life I never knew before. I was very naive about a lot of things. My parents had told me to stay from drugs and I remember having a class about different kinds of drugs but I was never really exposed to any. After moving here I became friends with some people that did things like Marijuana and smoking and some even more dangerous drugs. But I was lucky because none of my friends that I did make ever pressured me into doing any of it. I think I pretty much stayed away from drugs because I had to take medicine all my life and I hated it and I hated how it made me feel and I didn't like the idea of not being in control so even though these were my friends I didn't do any of the drugs.

I remember hating school. I would go but I would never really try. I again was the quiet one so I didn't make many friends and the ones I did were not really the right kind of friends but I hung on to them anyway because it was all I had at the time. I was angry, no self esteem and depressed. I don't know if it was because of all I had went through or because I was a teenager and hormonal. It probably was a combination of both.

A couple of months before my seventh birthday I met my hubby. We clicked right away. I remember before we started "dating" I was at my cousin's house staying the night and he was there. We were writing notes back and forth to each other even though we were in the same room LOL. It was one of those I like you, do you like me? Check yes or no notes LOL. It was the funniest thing now that I look back on it. He went to a different school than I did so he would get in his car and race down to come meet me (I would walk home from school) before I made it home so he could drive my brother and I home LOL.

I remember I used to walk to his house and he would meet me half way and we would walk to his house. We did a lot of walking back then LOL. After he graduated high school he used to come meet me at my lunch time in school. We had a lot in common. He had friends that were mostly the "drugies" in school but didn't do them either.

Unlike me though he grew up in an abusive home. Since he was the oldest child/son he got the worst of it. His mom did too. Before we had even met he started living with his Grandpa because he couldn't take living with that. Soon after we got together his parents got divorced. I truly believe now God brought us together so we could get each other through these times.

When I was 18 I quit school. Why you ask? Not because I wanted to party or not that I didn't care. That year I really was trying to do well and Harlow was a good influence on me to stick with it. I quit because the school had somehow managed to lose part of my records. See they had it down that I failed first semester of Gym in the ninth grade which I didn't because I had took Gym in my other school and the only way you could possibly fail Gym was not to dress up or participate and I did. They also had told me the year before if I had passed all these classes (which I did) I would be able to graduate. Then they turn around to tell me the following year that no I had to go to night school and retake Gym to be able to graduate. I wasn't about to take something I knew I already passed.

I did however get a job right away at Burger King and got my G.E.D. right away. When I was 19 I saved enough money to get a little efficiency apartment. Harlow had moved in with me soon after. Yes I know now that wasn't a good idea but remember too this was the time I had turned away from God. Harlow at this time believed in God but didn't know him. Not that this is an excuse but this is what happened and I can't change it now. Later we ended up breaking up for almost a year. I dated a little but nothing seriously and same with him. We of course ended up back together and soon after planned on getting married.


Wow I am just now realizing this might be a long series LOL. At the least two more post I think if not more. We shall see but for now I will stop here. I hope this helps everyone see who I am and where I have come from. I hope everyone had a good week!


multipleblessings said...

I see you have the same problem as Joe and I... We were bad too, and lived together for a few months before we got married... Now I have told the kids over and over how bad that is... And I have no idea how to tell them what we did, without us soundig like hipocrits (sp?) ... I need to tell them soon, before someone in Joe's family tells them. But HOW????


dakotablueeyes said...

that hasn't come up for us lol. What will I say about it. We lived together 7 months before we got hitched

Jody said...

I know it hasn't come up with the boy's either yet. We probably will sound like hypocrite's but hopefully they won't make the same mistakes as we did?